At howtogetthelifeyouwant.com we’re building a community to support personal growth and healthy lifestyles. Our community is diverse, which makes our content interesting and more useful since our collective smarts make for a magnificent mastermind! We believe that everyone has something to contribute. We do not believe in labels, such as young, old, educated, uneducated, slow or quick. We believe that insight and creativity can come from anyone and that people’s potential for contribution is not bound by gender, ethnicity or social class. We each have the potential to do great things.
howtogetthelifeyouwant.com strives to be a place for free-thinking, taking action that gives us purpose, and learning to master our lives. A place where people interested in a healthful and meaningful life can build rapport, show support and appreciation, and contribute to a community fellowship.
Although chaos sometimes breeds creativity and we want to foster creativity, we feel that guidelines are necessary to make howtogetthelifeyouwant.com a useful, productive and safe community. We want to be a tolerant place for ideas, people and discussion.
To accomplish our mission we set forth the following Community Guidelines (“Guidelines”). By using this Site, you agree to abide by the following Guidelines:
We expect you to conduct yourself on the Site in an adult and professional manner. Meaning, would you please be on your best behavior?
Do not post personal secrets, confidential information, or what you really think about your boss.
Be overly gracious.
Being overly gracious sounds like just normal friendliness on the Internet. Most human communication is conveyed through body language and tone of voice, which we can’t see or hear when you type. So would you please use extra “pleases,” and “thank yous”? Thank you!
Unless someone is specifically asking for advice, you might want to ask before offering it. Example: “Would you like some advice?” or “May I offer some advice?”
Mature debates are okay, but try to keep it polite. If somebody disagrees with you, respect his or her opinion.
Keep your cool.
If someone does do or say something that gets you angry – don’t respond. Or, at least don’t respond right away, or with anger. First, feel confident that the person has made him/herself look bad, and everyone can probably see that.
Be the bigger person.
Take the high road. When you write a response, have someone else read it before you post it, or at least have your computer read it back to you to make sure that it sounds gracious, level-headed and polite.
Don’t insult people.
Calling people names or saying that they are “stupid” is one of the least adult things you can do. Please don’t attack anyone personally and don’t take things personally.
Admit when you are wrong and apologize.
Sarcasm does not come across well on the Internet. You will avoid bunches of misunderstandings by just being straightforward and sincere.
Be honest. Try not to exaggerate or embellish and don’t lie. That said, try to still be nice when commenting on someone else’s Forum posts, Articles, Photos, and Video. Also, we have a policy on “honest images”, meaning that while it is a good idea to blur out parts of an image or video to protect identities or trade secrets, it is NOT ok to alter an image to appear better or different than it is in real life.
Re-read before you post.
Always think about how people could interpret your statements. Is there any way you can make it sound nicer?
While we know swearing can be satisfying, we ask that you do not swear on the site.
A Word of Caution…
Please keep in mind… anything you post will be on the World Wide Web, meaning, ANYONE in the world will be able to see it. You are responsible for your posts and any wrongful posts could have CONSEQUENCES AND COULD LEAD TO CRIMINAL AND CIVIL LIABILITY.
By using this Site you further agree…
- not to collect users’ information or content using any means, including: manually, harvesting bots, robots, spiders, or scrapers;
- not to do anything that could disable, overburden, or impair the proper working of the Site;
- not to post anything that contains any computer viruses or worms, or any other potentially damaging computer programs or files.
- to keep your contact information accurate and up-to-date;
- not to provide any false personal information, or create an account for anyone other than yourself without permission;
- not to share your password, let anyone else access your account, or do anything else that might jeopardize the security of your account;
- not to solicit login information or access an account belonging to someone else;
- not to use a third party’s account, user name or password at any time;
- not to create more than one personal account;
- not to transfer your account to anyone without first getting our written permission;
- you will not create another account if we disable your account;
- not to use our Site if you are under 18 without parental permission.
- Now for the tough stuff…
There are certain egregious offenses that may result in legal proceedings, not to mention getting you banned from the Site. (Again, you agree not to create another account if we disable your account.) By using this Site, you also agree to abide by the following rules:
You agree that you will not post anything that:
- is known by you to be false, inaccurate, deceptive or misleading;
- contains anyone’s personally identifiable information or financial information;
- infringes anyone’s copyright, patent, trademark, trade secret or other proprietary rights, or rights of publicity or privacy;
- violates any law, statute, ordinance, or regulation (including, but not limited to, those governing export control, consumer protection, unfair competition, antidiscrimination, or false advertising);
- is, or may reasonably be considered to be, defamatory, libelous, hateful, racially or religiously biased or offensive, unlawfully threatening or unlawfully harassing, or advocates or encourages illegal conduct harmful to any individual, partnership or corporation;
- is hate speech, threatening, or pornographic, incites violence, or contains nudity or graphic or gratuitous violence;
- can be interpreted as bullying, intimidating, or harassing;
- is alcohol-related, tobacco-related, dating-related or contains other mature content;
- promote any illegal activity, or advocate, promote or assist any unlawful act;
- cause annoyance, inconvenience or needless anxiety or be likely to upset, embarrass, alarm or annoy another person;
- impersonate any person, or misrepresent your identity or affiliation with any person or organization;
- give the impression that they emanate from or are endorsed by us or any other person or entity if this is not the case;
Alleged Violation Procedures:
To ensure that we provide a high-quality experience for you and for other users of the Site, you agree that howtogetthelifeyouwant.com or its representatives may access your account and records on a case-by-case basis to investigate complaints or allegations of abuse, infringement of third-party rights, or other unauthorized uses of the Site.
We reserve the right to take action, such as removing content, or suspending or deleting your account or your access to the Site immediately, with or without notice to you, and without liability to you, if we believe that you have violated any of the Terms Agreement furnished us with false or misleading information, or interfered with use of the Site by others.
We may work with law enforcement when we believe there is a genuine risk of criminal harm, physical harm, or direct threats to public safety.
The consequences for violating these Community Guidelines may, but need not, vary depending on the severity of the violation and the user’s history. For example, we may warn a user for a first violation, but if we continue to see further violations we may restrict a user’s ability to post or ban the user altogether. You agree that we may take any action that we deem necessary, in our sole discretion, to enforce these Community Guidelines, the Terms Agreement, and any other policies of this Site.
Thank you for reading and abiding by these Community Guidelines.
Updated: March 24, 2019